I feel for ya!! I had the exact same problem with my handful! Her mom even told me once that she picks her battles and if she doesn't want to wear ski pants than that is fine. Ummmm, NO. It's been -35 to -50 this winter so ski pants are a must in my opinion!

Mom always sent a text when she was on her way to pick up so I would ask her to start getting ready than. If we were upstairs already I would also stand in the doorway so she couldn't get past me to watch tv in the living room.

I agree. I never know how firm to be either. Like you said, they are the parent and you don't want to undermine them but at the same time, this is my home and you will be respectful while in it. There were many times that this mom thought I was too firm but I just didn't care anymore. Their last day was last Friday