Picking up infant too much?

[dodge__driver11]

I agree with playfelt.

I have a 20 month old, who was very coddled when she first came to me in November, always wanting to be picked up, keep me within sight etc.

I would say "you're okay_______, let's go play with ___________"

or...

You're a big girl, show me how you can play."

I too say, its not time for up, that comes when we read a story.

It'll get better, but don't give in kay?

[sunnydays]

The other ladies have a ton of experience and have offered good advice. I have a slightly different take on it personally though. There is not one "right" way I don't believe...so I am not saying they are wrong. For me, when I have a new little one transitioning into care, I do hold them or wear them on my back in a carrier quite a bit until they are feeling secure with me and the other kids and the new environment. I know I am not the norm in the daycare world, but this is just my way. I have found that when I do this, they form an attachment with me and feel more secure and soon enough they no longer want or need me to carry them around. Once they are feeling secure, if they do still ask to be picked up all the time, I do start to encourage them to go play instead and gently guide them to some toys etc to distract them from wanting up. It is a balance I think and it depends on how long the child has been in care etc.