I have to say I have this one daycare family; Mom's inquiries were short, not rude but to the point. When she came for interview she was very cold, not many questions again...really quick interview. I was sure that I was just one of many tours she had made and that I would never hear from this lady again. Well, she emailed me the next day saying how happy she was to have found me, brought back a signed contract the following week as promised and for the past 2 years this has been the most generous and reliable family I have (with a sweet sweet boy as well). However, sounds a like in your case child's anxiety issues don't fall far from the tree. It's a tough decision, for sure. The beauty of our business is that it's ours. If it's just not working out we can decide to terminate