Parents not telling the whole truth

[Spixie33]

Maybe he's just small for his size....not everyone has kids in the 95th percentile. I had a tiny son who would barely make the chart at checkups and it sucked but he grew eventually

I have had a daycare child who couldn't hold his own sippy cup or bottle until over 18 months and he just could not get the idea of a sippy versus bottle until close to 20 months.


I was pretty frustrated trying to teach him but the issue was that the parents were holding the bottle for him at home so he never had to learn. It wasn't a necessity for him and he knew that someone would eventually hold it for him.

This particular dcb was also tiny and I would try to be tough so he could learn to be self sufficient but then I would also feel bad for him and eventually be sure to hold it for him too. I became an enabler too because I felt like he must be hungry and because he was just so teeny for his age. I felt awful thinking he wasn't eating.

It took a long time for him to grasp the skill on his own but it was probably because everyone babied him for so long based on his size.


Maybe things won't seem so unusual once he settles in or he has transitioned with you? I would keep an eye on the child but not panic. It's easy to get too preoccupied with milestones but the truth is that each child is different and each family is different. Not every parent teaches their child to be as self reliant as the next.

We were taught not to get too caught up in the milestone markers because they can sometimes mean that a 1 year old has the whole year to master 'skill x"