From my earlier post, I mentioned giving my daughter a suppository because she was holding not constipated. This suppository overrode her holding and the bm brought such relief to her, as having a bowel full is not comfortable, that a light bulb went off and she realized pooping brought her relief and made her feel better. I guess every child who has this issue has a different switch which will make them realize pooping is a good thing....we just have to find it.
My dcg who just turned three has had her toilet training stopped because it was such a battle. She is like a different kid now the pressure is off and we are hoping she will initiate going on the potty herself.