Bangs

[Sassygirl]

Completely understand the annoyance factor of the hair hanging in the face, the tight jeans and the messy hair.
I have the same issues with some of my dck. I almost wonder if any of them are bathed each night TBH. Messy rats nests hair, or hair elastics from the day before left in, clothes too tight dirty faces, long unkept fingernails, horrible diaper rashes every Monday morning... Makes me really wonder. How much extra time really does it take out of your morning to make sure your child is clean and ready for the day?
In regards to the hair in the eyes/safety/bangs issue - I would buy the little braces type elastics from Dollarama, do her hair in a ponytail out of her face and make a point of saying at pick up "I did her hair today since she could barely see while she was painting/colouring, etc hope that you don't mind" and I am sure they would get the hint.

[Fun&care]

There are a few things that I don't think we as dcp's get to have a say on and FOR ME, one of them is hair. I don't think I would appreciate a person telling me that my child needed to get a hair cut. Just my opinion

I understand your point of view, I really do, and the LAST thing I want to do is to tell these parents to cut their daughters hair but is it really fair to me that I am the one fixing her hair 1 trillion times per day, and is it really fair to dcg to have to deal with it either? All for the sake of mom or dad wanting their little girl to have a certain hair do?!?! She is so young...they can easily grow out her bangs when she is older and ready to handle clips and hair ties! Gosh I even find it messes with their posture...like she has to tilt her head a certain way all the time or look mostly downwards cuz when she lifts her head the hair is in her eyes. So she is walking around not able to see
with bad posture and hair flinging in her eyes...gah it just annoys me to no end.

On a different note this is also the same parents who send her in jeans all the time. Now I know everyone is going to have a different opinion on this one too but I hate seeing toddlers in jeans. They just can't move as freely I find and this DCG in particular tends to always have tight fitting ones...my kids wore nothing but stretchy comfy pants during their early years...just another one of my pet peeves I guess.

So imagine my delight when she showed up in jeans and her crazy long hair this morning...

[2cuteboys]

I do the same as mickyc, but I call it a yoga bun to make mom feel better ha ha!

[5 Little Monkeys]

2cuteboys...I wear my hair in a high bun almost all the time so when I do the kids hair I try not to do it this way so the parents don't think I'm trying to make their kids mini me's!! haha One mom does her send her daughter in pigtails in buns from time to time though

I do the same as mickyc...I call it the pebbles look

[2cuteboys]

2cuteboys...I wear my hair in a high bun almost all the time so when I do the kids hair I try not to do it this way so the parents don't think I'm trying to make their kids mini me's!!

I would probably do the same! That would make for an awkward encounter if everyone was twins at pick up.

[bright sparks]

I totally get what 5LM is saying and agree to a certain extent. As a parent they may not appreciate being told that they need to cut their child's hair, but the reality is that even if they don't like it, and even if it oversteps the boundary, in some cases they need to be told to do something if it is in the best interest of the child. I am not going to be passive to a parent for fear of upsetting them if it is at the expense of the child. Bangs seems like such a trivial thing to tell a parent to deal with, but with the added Info you gave Fun&care, I'd tell the parent to that they need to deal with the bangs issue. It's not my job to tell them to do this, they should use their head and sort it out to begin with. This isn't a case of style choice, seems more like complete ignorance to meeting a child's basic needs. Tie it back effectively, or cut the bloody fringe.

[5 Little Monkeys]

I understand your side too. I am a dcp as well (obviously lol) and I completely understand your frustrations of having to do something a million times a day. HOWEVER, I chose this career and with it comes annoying things. No different than any other career, there are always going to be things I may not like but I have to do because it's my job that I chose.

FOR ME, doing hair is just one of those things. I also understand your point with the jeans but these are NOT our children and even though we may cut hair or choose different outfits for our own children (or future children :P ) I don't think we have the right to tell a parent things like this. It has nothing to do with upsetting the parent but more to do with minding our own business. If a parent is doing something that is obviously harming the child than of course I would say something!! Having long bangs and putting them in jeans is not harmful in my eyes.

We don't have to like or even agree with the way parents parent their children but we do have to respect their choices. (in regard to trivial things) In my opinion, it would be similar to a teacher phoning you and telling you that your son's hair is too long and he's always shaking his head to get it out of his eyes and they are worried he's going to hurt his neck (think justin bieber lol) or that your child shouldn't be wearing jeans with holes in them even if they are intentional because it looks messy and they could get cold outside or that your daughter isn't allowed to wear hoop earrings to school because it's a safety concern.

Because we are all our own boss we can obviously make whatever rule we want but if I was a parent looking for a dcp and saw that I was not allowed to send my child in jeans or that their bangs had to be cut or pulled back at all times, I wouldn't even bother. I am much to relaxed of a person to be able to follow those rules.

(I hope this doesn't come across as rude or snarky because that is definitely NOT my intention!! If this is something that truly bothers you and stresses you out than by all means ask the parent to abide by your wishes The worse they can say is "No" )

PS. I have a list of pet peeves too so I understand your frustration and your need to vent

[Fun&care]

I understand your side too. I am a dcp as well (obviously lol) and I completely understand your frustrations of having to do something a million times a day. HOWEVER, I chose this career and with it comes annoying things. No different than any other career, there are always going to be things I may not like but I have to do because it's my job that I chose.

FOR ME, doing hair is just one of those things. I also understand your point with the jeans but these are NOT our children and even though we may cut hair or choose different outfits for our own children (or future children :P ) I don't think we have the right to tell a parent things like this. It has nothing to do with upsetting the parent but more to do with minding our own business. If a parent is doing something that is obviously harming the child than of course I would say something!! Having long bangs and putting them in jeans is not harmful in my eyes.

We don't have to like or even agree with the way parents parent their children but we do have to respect their choices. (in regard to trivial things) In my opinion, it would be similar to a teacher phoning you and telling you that your son's hair is too long and he's always shaking his head to get it out of his eyes and they are worried he's going to hurt his neck (think justin bieber lol) or that your child shouldn't be wearing jeans with holes in them even if they are intentional because it looks messy and they could get cold outside or that your daughter isn't allowed to wear hoop earrings to school because it's a safety concern.

Because we are all our own boss we can obviously make whatever rule we want but if I was a parent looking for a dcp and saw that I was not allowed to send my child in jeans or that their bangs had to be cut or pulled back at all times, I wouldn't even bother. I am much to relaxed of a person to be able to follow those rules.

(I hope this doesn't come across as rude or snarky because that is definitely NOT my intention!! If this is something that truly bothers you and stresses you out than by all means ask the parent to abide by your wishes The worse they can say is "No" )

PS. I have a list of pet peeves too so I understand your frustration and your need to vent

Does this job come with "annoying" things? Of course but child safety should not be one of them. But I guess I should just mind my own business. Secondly, you would be surprised what school teachers call about. Thirdly I used to be pretty laid back myself but a few years in the childcare industry and there are things I just cannot stand anymore and parents being a little slow to realize what their child's basic needs are is one of them. The jeans comment of course was just an added thing that bothers me but that probably won't ever be mentioned to the parents. It was just to sort of point out that all too often parents do things for their children for vanity vs meeting basic needs. I am never going to impose my will on parents and tell them to cut their kids hair but for crying out loud this is something they should just DO because it's so obvious and I needed to vent about it.

[AmandaKDT]

I understand your side too. I am a dcp as well (obviously lol) and I completely understand your frustrations of having to do something a million times a day. HOWEVER, I chose this career and with it comes annoying things. No different than any other career, there are always going to be things I may not like but I have to do because it's my job that I chose.

FOR ME, doing hair is just one of those things. I also understand your point with the jeans but these are NOT our children and even though we may cut hair or choose different outfits for our own children (or future children :P ) I don't think we have the right to tell a parent things like this. It has nothing to do with upsetting the parent but more to do with minding our own business. If a parent is doing something that is obviously harming the child than of course I would say something!! Having long bangs and putting them in jeans is not harmful in my eyes.

We don't have to like or even agree with the way parents parent their children but we do have to respect their choices. (in regard to trivial things) In my opinion, it would be similar to a teacher phoning you and telling you that your son's hair is too long and he's always shaking his head to get it out of his eyes and they are worried he's going to hurt his neck (think justin bieber lol) or that your child shouldn't be wearing jeans with holes in them even if they are intentional because it looks messy and they could get cold outside or that your daughter isn't allowed to wear hoop earrings to school because it's a safety concern.

Because we are all our own boss we can obviously make whatever rule we want but if I was a parent looking for a dcp and saw that I was not allowed to send my child in jeans or that their bangs had to be cut or pulled back at all times, I wouldn't even bother. I am much to relaxed of a person to be able to follow those rules.

(I hope this doesn't come across as rude or snarky because that is definitely NOT my intention!! If this is something that truly bothers you and stresses you out than by all means ask the parent to abide by your wishes The worse they can say is "No" )

PS. I have a list of pet peeves too so I understand your frustration and your need to vent

I missed looking at this post the last day or two and thought I would comment since I was the one that wrote that I would ask them to give their bangs a trim.

I HAVE had to be that teacher that sent notes home to the parent saying that they need to send healthier food in their child's lunches, that they need to wear appropriate clothes, and I would also mention if I felt their hair was a distraction in school (like the Justin Beiber hair style).

It sucks having to do these things sometimes, because you don't want to offend anyone, but at the end of the day my job includes the safety and well being of the child in all ways. Yes, hair that is hanging down in a child's eyes is a safety concern and should be addressed if it becomes obvious that the parent is not addressing it. So I would take that extra step to make everyone have a better day, if it affects everyone's daily life then I don't see why it can't be brought up. I don't see how it is any different than telling a parent what kind of winter clothing they need to provide, or that the mitts they sent are no good for playing outside.

I am a very laid back person too, but I am also not afraid to speak up if something isn't working. For how much time these kids spend with us, along with a herd of other kids to care for, the last thing I would want to do is fuss every day with a daycare child's hair - I already have two kids of my own to groom and that is enough work already.

You don't have to respond to this post 5 Little Monkeys if you don't want to, as you had stated you were done, but I just thought I would post again since it looks like I was the one that "stirred the pot" in this thread.

[Secondtimearound]

I agree with 5lm , their child , their choice , but I do understand your frustration !!! I have hair problems here too but I have never done their hair . I guess I never really thought about fixing it , I have sent home some wild haired children !! Lol.
I get the jeans too , I had dcb in skinnies , I took a pic and sent it to dcm , he was going up the slide with his butt hanging out , next day jogging pants ! Lol
I really do not mind how they are dressed , hair ect but I have told dcm do not send them in good clothes as we do play and get messy !