Bangs

[momofnerds]

ok, to the person who said its part of the job, well guess what its not. So I have a child who I've had for a a long time. We always do hair here, not a big deal, but lately I've noticed that the child was being put to bed with the same hair do that we did and in the morning being brought here with the elastics still in the hair, never combed hair. They have now become lazy and refused to even take the hair clips out. Well I stopped fixing hair because if they can't take the time to take the clip out at night then why should I take the time to fix it in the morning. Also, I have never had a parent come and offer me hair clips or elastics.

[5 Little Monkeys]

Fun&Care, I understand your need to vent!! I didn't mean to offend or upset anyone with my opinion. I just don't see long bangs as being a huge safety hazard but hopefully the parents clue in soon and cut her hair. I am newer to the hdc business (over 2 years) but I have been in childcare for 6.5 years.

I also totally understand your jean comment. I find infants in jeans to be an odd choice. Toddlers not so much though.

Momofnerds...it was me that made that comment and we will have to agree to disagree. Nothing wrong with that

[Busy ECE mommy]

I would temporarily pull the hair back with elastics as well, as reduced vision is a safety issue and I would mention if the child was tripping or bumping into things as a result of the hair. I also get the jeans thing, but not for the sake of how it looks. I have issues with a chunky toddler who almost always comes in wearing skinny jeans, and I can't get them pulled down to change her diaper, as well as she can't properly walk or climb the stairs in them. I have made suggestions to parents, but they didn't catch a clue. I don't mind the jeans if they were loose or had the crotch snaps, so I could change the diaper. My other pet peeve is unclipped fingernails. I am doing all the kids regularly at about 10 day intervals as they are hurting their friends, and I tell parents I did it as they were scratching others/self or me, and my parents don't say thank you or feel embarassed that they forgot to do it. It drives me crazy! O.K. my rant is over!

[Fun&care]

I'm getting tired of convincing you and really I should just let it go. Her bangs are down to her mouth. If reduced visibility isn't a safety concern to you than I guess we will have to agree to having different standards I am more than happy to do this child's hair but not when she is constantly undoing what I do. My interests are the child's well being not the parents. But we will have to agree to disagree won't we

[5 Little Monkeys]

You don't have to convince me. I do understand your frustrations, I really do. I will agree that vision issues is a concern but if the bangs are down to her mouth than I would guess they are growing them out to just be part of the hair and they don't want bangs. That is just a guess though. Like I said, if it bothers you so much than just talk to the parents and see what they say Nothing wrong with that.

I didn't realize that voicing my opinion would upset you so much. I am truly sorry for that!

[Fun&care]

You really need to stop apologizing for your opinion. It really just defeats the purpose. And I am not just referring to this thread but to many others. State your position and leave it. There is nothing wrong with having different opinions...I am ok with that but wanted to give you the full picture of this situation so you could assess it with all the facts. Maybe it's a case of "you just had to be there". I understand it is a touchy subject either way.

LUCKILY dcg actually let me put in an elastic this morning. Previously she would scream and refuse to have one in. So far so good, otherwise I would plan to have a chat about it with her parents tonight. Parents can do whatever the heck they like at home, but when things start to affect ME or a child negatively, I get involved because I am not going to sit here and let the well being of a child slip or risk potential liability for an injury because I want to protect either my relationship with the parents or their ego.

[5 Little Monkeys]

Oh my....This will be my last post on this because it's just becoming silly now. I never apologized for my opinion, I apologized for it upsetting you (which is not my fault but I am polite and thought it was the right thing to do, I guess I was wrong) I state my opinion/thougts but when someone replies back, I will as well. It's called having a conversation...or at least that's what I thought it was. My main priority is always the safety of children. I have had plenty of conversations with parents over the years that then in turn made our relationship awkward for a bit or hurt their ego but that is bound to happen and will happen plenty of more times throughout my career. I'm okay with that as it comes with the job.

Anyways, just wanted to say my peace and I am now moving on.

[Fun&care]

Couldn't agree more AmandaKDT. By the way I don't think you stirred the pot at all...I was suggesting from the OP that her hair should be cut. And for the record, I didn't mean any disrespect at all about teachers sending notes. Unfortunately sometimes we as teachers/ providers have to be the one to clue in the parents. It sucks to be in that position but obviously we take the child's well being to heart and want what's best for them. I think that's what bugs me the most and what I was trying to get at all along...I feel I am being put in an awkward position to get the parents to do something they should have figured out themselves a long time ago and I feel like I will be the bad guy for bringing it up. Not my favorite part of the job. I have had to nudge these parents several times about many things. It's just ridiculous after a while and I tire of being in that position. I feel like I am parenting the parents

[mickyc]

For myself I don't see what the big deal is in putting the child's hair up yourself it is bothers you. It doesn't have to be a beautiful ponytail and if you do it tight enough with the non slip elastics the child should not be able to take it out.

As a parent who is in the middle of growing out my child's bangs and struggling with different clips and ponytails to keep her hair from going in her face all day I would be offended if her pre-school teacher hinted that I should cut her bangs.

There are certain things that are a must in my daycare and I have them in my contract. No overalls, no jewelry and no flip flops unless they have backs on them. There are things that annoy me - for example - I HATE onsies!! I really do but I certainly don't think it is something that I can ask the parents not to dress their child in.

Each to their own though. If the hair is that big of an issue then maybe put in your policy that all hair must be pulled up and away from the face.