I know how it feels , we are providing the very best care we can and being questioned opens up all kinds of emotions from distrust to frustration . I think it was just her checking , and there's no harm in that . I can only imagine me dropping off my dd at a dayhome lol !!! I get it from her viewpoint and totally understand your view point .
Maybe when you get to know her better it won't or wouldn't bother you as much !!
I am getting better at being more confident when asked questions . When I started I would be very upset thinking parents didn't trust me , but it wasn't that , sometimes just a question !!
If it makes you feel any better , I had dcb grandma pick him up with a wet bum from going down a slide after it rained ! She was very upset !! She said , he's soaking wet !! Did you let him sit in a mud puddle all afternoon ? It took every ounce of my being not to say , um yes , he was easier to take care of that way !! That aggravated me all weekend !!!
I wouldn't let it get to you , weird ? Yes !! But maybe just a thoughtless question .