Update on AP child...or should I say parent lol

[Judy Trickett]

It sounds like they initially did the work needed to not get turfed from care. And now that has passed and he is still in care they are not in a state of urgency to please you and they are slipping into their old ways. Usually when parents make a 180 turn on their parenting style as a result of daycare problems it rarely works or lasts because, well, if the parent really believed in a different style they that is what they would have started with. They are just placating the provider to get you "off their case" and now they are slipping back into their AP ways.

[bright sparks]

It sounds like they initially did the work needed to not get turfed from care. And now that has passed and he is still in care they are not in a state of urgency to please you and they are slipping into their old ways. Usually when parents make a 180 turn on their parenting style as a result of daycare problems it rarely works or lasts because, well, if the parent really believed in a different style they that is what they would have started with. They are just placating the provider to get you "off their case" and now they are slipping back into their AP ways.

You may very well be right. I am in constant communications with them and if this does take a turn for the worse, I have no issues terming them.

I don't think she made a conscious decision to AP in the first place. I think she co-slept out of convenience and ease of breast feeding and getting a better night sleep, which she has made very clear was a big thing for her, and after I said at the interview about sleep training him, she likely did some research and came across AP and found a theory that reinforced that what she was doing was okay. Don't misunderstand me, I am respectful of people's choices to parent a certain way, so for those on here, and I know there are a few who chose to AP, this isn't a sweeping statement against AP, simply an opinion based in this one case and the individuals involved.