How would you handle this?

[5 Little Monkeys]

I have no problem agreeing to disagree You asked wwyd and that is what I would do. We all have different personalities, priorities etc so of course all of our dc's will be ran differently. If disruptive napping is a deal breaker for you than that is fine. Fortunately, I have always had pretty good to excellent nappers so naptime isn't a problem for me. If I had a child who made naptime hell than I'm sure my view would change!

I also just introduced two girls to cots, ages 2 and 2.5. I did the same as you and talked about how they were big girls now and got to sleep in big girl beds. I told them that there was no getting off the cot and no talking to each other. They have done excellent! The 2.5 yo was a mover in her playpen but I have noticed that has decreased with the cot. I have a video baby monitor and walkie talkies in the room. If I see any of the kids being disruptive I talk to them via walkie talkie and they instantly settle down. I think not knowing where my voice is coming from is a huge factor in this!! LOL

I totally understand the frustrations that come with parents not doing their job. I recently had a 4 yo that had parents who were smart on paper and knew all the right things to say and do but NEVER carried through. We had totally different parenting techniques and I would be frustrated everyday with them and their daughter. It was something mickyc told me that helped.....think of it as divorced parents. What they do at home is something I can not change so all I need to concentrate on is my rules here at dc and deal with her behaviour here. I took a different view on the situation and approached things a bit differently than I had been and honestly, her behaviour did change. Still not the greatest but it definitely improved. I think it's always best if the dcp and parents are on the same page but it's not always the case and in this case I just had to let it go and not worry about how her parents dealt with her behaviour and just do what I thought was fair here.