How would you handle this?

[mickyc]

Thanks 5LM! LOL

Yes my take on things is while kids are in my care it is my rules. I don't care what the parents do at home. There are lots of things I shake my head about. I have kids who turn into complete lunatics when their parents show up. All that matters is that they behave with me during my time. I am strict with my kids from day 1. I do not let things slide and they know not to push their limits. I cannot control what goes on at their home so I don't bother trying. I have step children so I have learned this many years ago that there is no point, you can only control what happens in your house.

Be firm with the girl. If she is going to scream then make it unpleasant for her. Put her by herself, ignore it, enforce some sort of punishment for the behaviour afterwards. Find out what matters most to her and use that as your leverage. If you have exhausted all options then feel free to terminate. Just my 2 cents! LOL

[nschildcare]

Thanks everyone. I do appreciate everyone's input.

I think writing it out has helped clear it up for me. I do believe this 'extra' behaviour at naptimes is connected with the other defiance flare up. I was thinking of them as two separate issues but now, in reading back through this, I think that it is part and parcel with the new children starting.

I will give it a few weeks and see how it goes. Let her scream it out and actively ignore