Big rant!

[momof2_boys]

I feel for you! My husband can work long hours too. And being with my two boys and my niece all day (she's here for 11 hrs) feels like I never have time for myself. My youngest doesn't fall asleep most nights until around 10 if I'm lucky. Maybe try talking to your husband to have a "sleep-in" morning one day on the weekends. That way you feel like you get your own time to yourself and get some well-deserved rest. Not every weekend, but once in a while.

I also feel your pain with your renovation. Ours is at least in the basement (so mostly out of the way) but it has been ongoing for about 2 1/2 yrs. from one bad contractor to another to us trying it on our own. My husband tries to do a little on his own but he's busy with work and does what he can when he can (sometimes I feel like it's not enough, but like you, realize that he does what he can) It's gotten to the point where I hate looking down there and only go down to do laundry. Just keep in mind that eventually it will be over. Someday.

For the crying little girl, my niece was the exact same thing when she first started. She still does once in a while. But for the most part it has stopped. What I did was when I knew she was really just crying to cry and wasn't hungry, thirsty, etc. just bent down to her level an just basically told her to stop. "No crying for no reason, that doesn't work with me." And the. Walk away to finish what I was doing or whatever. Eventually she stopped. But it is so frustrating. She can reach a pitch nobody's ears on this world should have to endure.

My 3 yr old is also at a stage where if you try to discipline him he laughs sometimes. It's crazy frustrating and I ran out of ideas if how to deal with it. As a last resort I have started just taking away his things when he isn't listening. I let him know he's grounded until he starts behaving better and making better choices. He has no TV, no games on mom and dad's phones or his mobigo, etc. no songs before bed (that's a big one for him), no helping me bake stuff in the kitchen, etc. good luck and stay strong. In the past I sat him down and true just speaking to him about his behaviour, why it's not nice to laugh, why he should be listening, why it's important to make good choices on how he behaves, etc. it works for a bit (like 5 mins) but he's still young so. In one ear, out the other. I have found in the last few days throwing away his chocolates to be affective.

And if you feel bitter about the fact that you have to do your projects, etc with kids around and work around them, talk to your husband about it. That's not a good thing to let fester. The next time you need to finish something and your husband is going to go out with friends or sit down to watch tv, etc let him know you need his help to watch the kids while you get it done. He probably has no idea you feel that way, men and women think differently and I think it's hard for us to realize that they really just don't know what's going on.

I hope you start feeling better about everything soon!