Termintation and letter

[MonkeyPrincess]

Well while playing outside, this afternoon, dcg pushed my daughter and she fell and scraped up her hands- poor kid cried. When mom came to pick up the child, i gave my notice. Mom became upset (cried a bit) but i explained that it was for the best interest of all children involved, including her own, but i can't have a child here that is repeatedly harming other kids. I tried my very best and it didn't work out. She was understanding and said they saw it coming. She understands because apparently they are dealing with her misbehaving at home too, she has told me this many times. I gave them their one week and notice as per my contract and she went home.

A few hours later, the dad texts me saying dcg is never coming back to my daycare and the dcmom will be by to pick up dcg's things. I called him to get explanation and he was livid. He said he didn't want to get into it and wanted to leave it as it was and that dcg is not coming back. I couldn't understand why he was so irrationally angry, it's not like i sprung this termination without warning!. He went on to say things like 'i dont want to say something i will regret, it's done' but wouldn't explain why he was so angry. When i would say something he would yell over me, not even giving me a chance to speak. Then he says 'what do you expect, you only gave us a week's notice. the child will be cared for my grandparents and she already has a new dcp that will start one week from monday.' (already??? a new DCP in 2 hours since the dcm left my house? this coming from parents who took like a week to make their decision to join my daycare?). Also, he doesn't want her to come back to my house so she can be treated differently from other kids and on a short leash and basically hounded for the next week. I said 'well according to the contract you signed, one week notice is my termination policy, and if you recall, harm to other children is grounds for immediate dismissal, i gave extra time to find a new dcp'. He went on to mention that my house is the only place dcg acts out like that, she doesn't misbehave at home or anywhere else. I replied that's not what his wife said, and my experience in babysitting, work in a daycare centre and in a high school say that children do act differently in different settings. You know his response? Maybe she (his daughter) acted like that because she was being influenced by my daughter. ( ) I replied really, i doubt it because your child is harming all the other children too, which is why I have given verbal warnings, including one last week and one already this week. Deliberately hurting other children is not allowed, now i have to explain to the other parents that their kid was bit. He didn't care to hear it. He ended it saying that his wife will be by to pick up the kid's things.

See now i have a feeling that the mom didn't tell the dad all the details. I wonder if she left out a lot of the things that we had discussed over the past while, and some of the hitting/hurting incidents. That's the only reason to explain his irrational anger for me. Either that or mom could have spun the story differently, i don't know. These are just my thoughts.

[MonkeyPrincess]

Well while playing outside, this afternoon, dcg pushed my daughter and she fell and scraped up her hands- poor kid cried. When mom came to pick up the child, i gave my notice. Mom became upset (cried a bit) but i explained that it was for the best interest of all children involved, including her own, but i can't have a child here that is repeatedly harming other kids. I tried my very best and it didn't work out. She was understanding and said they saw it coming. She understands because apparently they are dealing with her misbehaving at home too, she has told me this many times. I gave them their one week and notice as per my contract and she went home.

A few hours later, the dad texts me saying dcg is never coming back to my daycare and the dcmom will be by to pick up dcg's things. I called him to get explanation and he was livid. He said he didn't want to get into it and wanted to leave it as it was and that dcg is not coming back. I couldn't understand why he was so irrationally angry, it's not like i sprung this termination without warning!. He went on to say things like 'i dont want to say something i will regret, it's done' but wouldn't explain why he was so angry. When i would say something he would yell over me, not even giving me a chance to speak. Then he says 'what do you expect, you only gave us a week's notice. the child will be cared for my grandparents and she already has a new dcp that will start one week from monday.' (already??? a new DCP in 2 hours since the dcm left my house? this coming from parents who took like a week to make their decision to join my daycare?). Also, he doesn't want her to come back to my house so she can be treated differently from other kids and on a short leash and basically hounded for the next week. ( Oh that's real fresh because I was talking to the dcmom at pick up, i was calling the dcg honey and giving her cheese and crackers, and to her older sister) and i wouldn't do that, as all children are treated equally here. ) I said 'well according to the contract you signed, one week notice is my termination policy, and if you recall, harm to other children is grounds for immediate dismissal, i gave extra time to find a new dcp'. He went on to mention that my house is the only place dcg acts out like that, she doesn't misbehave at home or anywhere else. I replied that's not what his wife said, and my experience in babysitting, work in a daycare centre and in a high school say that children do act differently in different settings. You know his response? Maybe she (his daughter) acted like that because she was being influenced by my daughter. ( ) I replied really, i doubt it because your child is harming all the other children too, which is why I have given verbal warnings, including one last week and one already this week. Deliberately hurting other children is not allowed, now i have to explain to the other parents that their kid was bit. He didn't care to hear it. He ended it saying that his wife will be by to pick up the kid's things.

See now i have a feeling that the mom didn't tell the dad all the details. I wonder if she left out a lot of the things that we had discussed over the past while, and some of the hitting/hurting incidents. That's the only reason to explain his irrational anger for me. Either that or mom could have spun the story differently, i don't know. These are just my thoughts.