Weaning a two-and-a-half-year old is HARD :(

[mickyc]

This is only my opinion and please don't take it the wrong way. This is why attachment parenting is not a good idea IMO, it just makes it harder for the child to let go of things that have become habit. The only way to go is cold turkey, she will be miserable for a week or two but she will get it eventually. I think the first thing you need to work on is getting her off the breast and then work on getting her out of your bed. It isn't going to be easy but you need to set your mind to it and not give in. You have created this habit and now need to break it, she is a child, if allowed to continue she will.