Question about older children

[AmandaKDT]

I think I have everything under control for under 5 yo that are the ages I have experience with. No major behavioral issues. Any tips for older kids' attitude.

I guess I just don't let them get away with anything and always expect good manners towards myself and the other kids. It really isn't much different than how you would deal with a 5 year old, except that you can set your expectations even higher. I will remind them to say please and thank you if they don't say it. If I notice that something hasn't been done (like clearing their plates away from the table), then I call them back to come clean it up. It doesn't take long for them to get into the routine and know your rules. I rarely raise my voice, but I am firm and consistent with my expectations and will deal out consequences if needed.

I also do the "either, or" if I get attitude. Either you clean up after yourself, or next time you won't get to participate at all. Either you stop throwing snow balls or you'll be shoveling my sidewalk for the rest of the week.

I worked with a teacher once who said her strategy was to be a *itch (rhymes with witch) the first month or two of school (in terms of being super strict with her rules and expectations - not just a meany for no reason), then spend the rest of the school year being a fun teacher because she had the set the ground work and the kids knew how to behave.

But if it is true that this girl is well behaved then you will likely have no problem. Just don't be afraid to call her on her behaviour if you don't like what she is doing. That is the nice thing about working with older kids, you can have an actual conversation with them.