Screaming/crying infant- How to make parents realise the problem is serious?

[teddybeartots]

Attachment parenting is soooo hard on babies and caregivers. The poor kid doesnt understand why Im not picking her up.

She has made great strides since she has been in our home. Like she doesnt cry when mom drops her off, shes learning to sleep longer in her crib, and shes gaining her assertiveness with my invasive little guy lol

So, there is hope. I guess I just want to know if there is anything the parents could be doing as well? I suggested widening the gap between parent and child; encouraging her to crawl if she wants to be where parent is (obviously within reasonable distance). Less baby on hip action + reassuring her without picking her up. Any other suggestions on what I could say?

[5 Little Monkeys]

Attachment parenting is soooo hard on babies and caregivers. The poor kid doesnt understand why Im not picking her up.

She has made great strides since she has been in our home. Like she doesnt cry when mom drops her off, shes learning to sleep longer in her crib, and shes gaining her assertiveness with my invasive little guy lol

So, there is hope. I guess I just want to know if there is anything the parents could be doing as well? I suggested widening the gap between parent and child; encouraging her to crawl if she wants to be where parent is (obviously within reasonable distance). Less baby on hip action + reassuring her without picking her up. Any other suggestions on what I could say?

I would stress to the parents how important it is for them to do what you have suggested or it will just make it that much harder when the 2 new ones start. Let them know that these suggestions will greatly benefit her when she is in dc. I would also mention that if she doesn't adjust to dc within a reasonable amount of time, they will have to find a dc that is a better fit for her.

[Lee-Bee]

[QUOTE=teddybeartots; 63452]Attachment parenting is soooo hard on babies and caregivers. The poor kid doesnt understand why Im not picking her up.


I believe that it is more than just AP though...I think certain personalities mixed with AP can make it really hard for some kids to transition. I have 2 AP children here from pretty hard core AP homes and while both are crappy sleepers they are amazing kids. One took some time to settle but was never extreme. The other arrived and from day one and barely let out a whimper. This child had never been left anywhere with anyone but mom. This child couldn't even stand with help at 12months because the child was held so much. Within weeks the child was pulling up everywhere and finger walking. I do notice AP families suck for naps :-) But I can deal with that. I do find that my AP kids are very confident, happy well adjusted kids here in care...now when parents arrive things certainly change :-)

I am pretty sure it is largely due to personality. Hopefully your little one does adjust and becomes a laid back easy going child. There is always the chance that when the others start this child will have more distractions and will keep busy easier? It can be hard to picture now...but hopefully!