Not sending requested clothing

[bright sparks]

I see the issue with snow boots instead of rain boots for keeping feet dry but if the child brings snow pants instead of splash pants they should be fine so pick your battles. It would appear that you have asked more than enough times. Do not take this out on the child regardless of the parents behaviour, it is not fair to the child and could just make other problems come up. This is an 8 year old not a two year old who is going to be much more severly effected by being penalized by being left out as a result of her parent's behaviour...have a heart. An eight year opld is going to hate her parents, hate you, and feel bad about themselves as a result of you isolating them from the group activity when there is nothing they can do about it, and oh yes, it won't actually produce any clothing. Never use the child as a pawn. Instead, tell the parents flat out that if they do not bring her with the proper attire, that she can not attend. You don't need to explain why she needs them as you have already done this repeatedly. Why not try a different approach and confront them about the real problem "Why is it that after repeated requests you still don't bring her in appropriate clothing?" It is an open question so no shrugging of shoulders or yes or no answers and maybe you will in fact find out that they don't have an extra $20 to splurge on their child. Also off season these items can be very hard to get hold of so maybe they have looked briefly and either not found anything or the options they have found are to pricey for their budget. Rather than assuming ask the questions and find out the facts. Maybe having a frank and honest conversation rather than just repeatedly telling them which clearly doesn't work, you will be in a better position to offer kind advice on where to look. Once again I say that you should not accept the child into care until spare clothes are sent and appropriate outdoor clothing too. This would be the biggest threat to them of not having childcare so they should be more willing to come up with a solution pronto as a result.

[AmandaKDT]

I see the issue with snow boots instead of rain boots for keeping feet dry but if the child brings snow pants instead of splash pants they should be fine so pick your battles. It would appear that you have asked more than enough times. Do not take this out on the child regardless of the parents behaviour, it is not fair to the child and could just make other problems come up. This is an 8 year old not a two year old who is going to be much more severly effected by being penalized by being left out as a result of her parent's behaviour...have a heart. An eight year opld is going to hate her parents, hate you, and feel bad about themselves as a result of you isolating them from the group activity when there is nothing they can do about it, and oh yes, it won't actually produce any clothing. Never use the child as a pawn. Instead, tell the parents flat out that if they do not bring her with the proper attire, that she can not attend. You don't need to explain why she needs them as you have already done this repeatedly. Why not try a different approach and confront them about the real problem "Why is it that after repeated requests you still don't bring her in appropriate clothing?" It is an open question so no shrugging of shoulders or yes or no answers and maybe you will in fact find out that they don't have an extra $20 to splurge on their child. Also off season these items can be very hard to get hold of so maybe they have looked briefly and either not found anything or the options they have found are to pricey for their budget. Rather than assuming ask the questions and find out the facts. Maybe having a frank and honest conversation rather than just repeatedly telling them which clearly doesn't work, you will be in a better position to offer kind advice on where to look. Once again I say that you should not accept the child into care until spare clothes are sent and appropriate outdoor clothing too. This would be the biggest threat to them of not having childcare so they should be more willing to come up with a solution pronto as a result.

I was trying to have a conversation with the dad, but it wasn't happening as all I got back was the shrugging shoulders. This isn't the first time with the shrugging shoulders either, I got the same response other times as well about forgotten clothing.

[bright sparks]

I was trying to have a conversation with the dad, but it wasn't happening as all I got back was the shrugging shoulders. This isn't the first time with the shrugging shoulders either, I got the same response other times as well about forgotten clothing.

Then for sure I would just tell him that she will be turned away at the door without proper clothing and then stick to your guns and don't back down. When he pulls his face just be sure to remind him of the numerous conversations you have tried to have.