I think she was right to say she was going to look for care elsewhere even though what you told her was "this is just something I'm considering and haven't decided for sure on yet". As a parent I wouldn't wait around for you to decide if you were going to charge me something I couldn't afford, I would absolutely start looking around. That being said, sounds like you have both come to an agreement that works for you both. Please make sure you have said straight out to her that if you find a full time child that she will be out of a spot......you need to be direct about that so there are no misunderstandings... In the future I would recommend that you don't tell parents what you are "considering doing", but only inform them when you are actually going to make a change, and give them adequate notice before the change occurs.