Try to figure out if I'm the "difficult" mom

[nschildcare]

What is her sick policy? If she doesn't have one, she needs to set one out. It will save her grief, and let you know what to expect, as well.

I agree a doctor's note to say your child is healthy seems excessive. However, as a provider, I understand their frustration. I have had parents dope and drop, bring their kids knowingly ill (with stomach flu, croup and fevers), etc etc. It is very frustrating for me b/c I go over this extensively in my interviews with parents that I don't care for sick children. I will (and have) terminated care with families b/c of this.

Everyone will have different sick policies. Sounds like your provider needs to implement one, and soon.

I would have a chat with her and get it sorted out.