Try to figure out if I'm the "difficult" mom

[5 Little Monkeys]

First, I would be PO'd at my fiance for that unprofessional text. This is MY daycare and only I send texts to the parents regarding things like this. There are definitely times my fiance and I have disagreements over things that happen at dc but in the end, it is MY decision on how to handle things. He would support me if I asked him but I don't need him to fight my battles for me. Plus this is OUR home so I would be annoyed at him telling people it's his lol.

Second, from what you have said, no I don't think your "that" mom. I do think you should have kept him home for 24 hours if he had thrown up though. I am only concerned about diarrhea if they have it 3x in one day so that wouldn't bother me.

I do agree with you that a sick note is a waste of time but it is up to your dcprovider and if she asks for one, I would likely do it this once but explain to her your take on it. I would be more annoyed at having to expose myself to all the germs at the walk in to get a note when I know my child is fine.

However, I can understand their frustration. They are dealing with multiple children and perhaps many of them are sick right now? Sometimes a parent doesn't think what their child has is a big deal or contagious but as a dcp, I can tell when something is contagious and out of control when my whole dc is out sick. I ran into this problem last winter...it was a month and a half of ongoing illness. One child would stay home for a week, than another and another. Nobody could get better because we were all being exposed to it and nobody had gone to the doctor because each parent just felt it was a "cold"...in the end, after some encouragement from me, most went to the doctor and were put on antibiotics and within a couple weeks we were back to normal!