Try to figure out if I'm the "difficult" mom

[Lou]

1) If her contract states 24hrs after vomiting then yes you are in the wrong for risking exposing the other children to the stomach bug. It's also important to remember that different children and different ages respond differently to bugs so while your child may have only thrown up once, another might not be able to keep anything down for a few days, dehydration, etc.
2) If her contract requires your child to be fever free, then again, you shouldn't be bringing in your child even with a low grade fever. It simply isn't fair to your provider to have to care for your ill child and then deal with the exposure. I am not a "rush to the doctor" for every thing either, but if she has a policy that you had originally agreed to, you must respect it.
3) That all being said, the way the provider and her husband handled this was TERRIBLE. I would never ask my husband to text anyone, let alone with crap like that! Obviously, she knew he did it because how else would he get all your phone numbers? It was extremely unprofessional and quite honestly, it would get me too annoyed to be able to stay there. I also wouldn't be going in to get a doctor's note. If your child has been diarrhea, vomit and fever free for over 24hrs then as per HER policy your child should be welcomed back into care. If she is adamant, then it sounds like your aren't a right fit for each other any longer, and it may be time to move on and find a new provider that you gel with

[Spooly]

Thank you for your honest feedback - both the encouragement and the chastisement. It seems clear to me that I have been in the wrong in past instances, and that's something that I need to change moving forward. I understand that taking a "live and let live" stance toward our different opinions isn't alright if I have agreed to operate on her terms.

As far as this particular issue with the healthy note from the doctor goes, I've laid out my concerns and left the ball in their court, clearly stating that I'd like to be able to talk it out. I guess that's all I can do, and I'm hoping for the best.

[Lee-Bee]

I'd be curious as to how the DCP's husband got all the families phone numbers to send a text. My husband would have no clue how to find that info without my guiding him. Well...it's easily accessible in the "Child Information Binder" but I don't think he would think to go look there. Not that he would ever contact families since he is well aware that this is my business and I am in charge, though I consult him.

I can understand him being frustrated but I would think finding all the numbers and sending this text goes beyond the average persons threshold of being frustrated.