Try to figure out if I'm the "difficult" mom

[Judy Trickett]

Well, that whole daycare has a problem, IMO. One, it is the dcprovider's daycare - NOT her husband's daycare. She needs to grow a freaking professional backbone and take care of her OWN business. If SHE doesn't like how a parent is handling things SHE needs to take care of it - not hide behind her husband's coat tails. If she can't handle the confrontational part of her business (which there always is from time to time) then she has no business being IN business.

Second, as a provider, I don't give that much power to ANY one else - medical doctor included. The MD doesn't run my daycare - I DO! So a doctor's note means NOTHING to me. NOTHING. It is MY decision and judgment that matters with regard to who attends and when.

Third, she has a contract and she should make parents follow it. If they aren't following it and she is upset by it then, again, that is HER fault. And if she doesn't have a contract, then, again, shame on her for not having one.

Now, as for the OP....if you ARE under contract then you need to go and read it and see what it says about illness policies. I know in my contract NO amount of fever is acceptable and I wouldn't really care what a parents deems as 'acceptable'. All that really matters is what I think is acceptable and that is all clearly laid out in the contract and policies.

This whole situation could have been prevented if your dcprovider would just take control of her business and stop giving the power away to her husband, the daycare parents, and anyone else - like the MD.