I feel for you! I have cared for 2 babies in the past year plus raises my own baby daughter this year and it's very hard. She needs tons of love and assurance, and holding and carrying her is what she needs right now to form these attachments to you. As she learns her trust and confidence she will become more independent and less needy. Hang in there if you can, the good parts just around the corner. Ergo carriers are great, or maybe a wrap?