I do agree that a baby cannot be spoiled by holding her too much and that babies need to be held a lot and cuddled, etc. However, in a group care environment, it is not always possible to hold and rock a baby while caring for all the other small children. I think you could try holding and cuddling her a fair amount during her awake times, but also putting her down to explore so that she learns that it is a safe place for her to play and that she doesn't need to rely on you all the time for comfort. I would actually let her cry at naptime until she understands that it is time to sleep. She needs much more than 40 minutes of sleep at this age and if she go and take her out sometimes, then she will be confused about what she is supposed to do. I had to do this with a 15 month old and once she learned the routine and that I couldn't hold her all the time, although I didn give lots of cuddles at appropriate times, she began to calm down. I think routine and dependability are key to making a child feel safe and happy. Once the child can predict what will happen next, it will take the uncertainty out of things and help them understand how things work in your home.