might not be the best caregiver for her? Sounds to me like you're the only one who is treating this child like a 3 year old and having some expectations of her behavior. If a child spat on someone here they would be out of every fun activity for the rest of the day and constantly reminded why. If the parents are like that, I would suggest that you start advertising the space. I wouldn't be surprised if they are already looking for another place.