Quote Originally Posted by lsl164 View Post
Hi. I am having issues dealing with a 3 year old girl. I have been watching her (and her 7 year old brother) for over a month now. She is very shy and tends to be very moody. One minute she is happy and the next she is crying for no apparent reason. When she is not happy she does not want anyone but her older brother (now in school). When it is time to get ready to get the older kids to school she will start to cry and lock herself in the bathroom because she does not want the brother to leave. He does everything for her and the parents seem to want him to. She is very much babied. When he goes to school she will cry and scream for 20 minutes or more. She does not want me to talk to her, touch her, etc. She will not use please or thank you. She will not say sorry for misbehaving. She will not say hi to other people. She will tell me that she does not want to be at my house and that she does not like me (usually in response to me saying i hope we can be friends). I do not have a great relationship with the parents so i cannot ask them their opinion. The first time i tried to tell the dad that the girl spit on another child and refused to apologize, his only response was that i might not be the best caregiver. I have been in business for over 10 years and have never dealt with this type of situation before. I am at a loss. Any ideas?


It sounds to me like the parents have some issues? Address the Mother and if they are not onboard with discipline then terminate. I have a 3-year-old girl who is similar and I don't invade her space. She gets time outs for unacceptable behavior and if she refuses to say sorry she gets a time out. Period! When she cry’s because she is missing her Mom or Sister I leave her alone until she is ready to join the group. Not everyone likes hugs or likes to talk about there emotions. Introverted people need space!

It took my 3 year old a good 3 months to come out of her shell and now she knows her guidelines and boundaries.

If your not on the same page as the parents how can it work?