Need advice dealing with a shy, moody 3 yr old please!

[lsl164]

I told the dad about her behavior on Friday and he turned it back on me that she has nothing to look forward to coming here. He then saud that since i have no other kids during the day right now that she is upset and then asked why i am not looking for other kids?! I am actively looking just with no luck right now. And to make matters worse my teenage daughter was babysitting for them that night and the dad asked her if i was actually looking or not. I have been so upset all weekend because since i have no other full time kids right now we need this income. I would like to terminate but financially it would be hard. I hate this situation. The kids are here right now and the girl has been crying and whimpering since she arrived. She keeps telling the brother not to go to school. I have told her that we might go to the farm today but she doesn't want it unless the brother is with her. I am at a loss

[Skysue]

Playfelt has some great ideas. The Dad should mind his tongue how rude. Tell her parents your ideas about going to play groups & or checking out library programs interim while you are trying to fill a new space. Let them know that finding the right age for her can be a challenge and that you are doing your best for her needs.

You are doing a great job and I know how hard it is out there! Good luck do whats best for you and your family!

[lsl164]

Just letting you all know the dad just gave 2 weeks notice via email. I feel relieved yet worried about finances.

[zen39]

Just letting you all know the dad just gave 2 weeks notice via email. I feel relieved yet worried about finances.

I know how worrying it can be financially losing a spot, but it will get filled. Don't give up hope and remember you are your own boss, don't sacrifice what you need to satisfy others. The worst thing we can do as daycare providers is to not protect our well being. We take great care of these children and we need to remember to do the same for ourselves.

When I first decided to do this job it was so I could be home with my own and also to decide how I wanted my day to be, be my own boss. I decide what stresses I allow into my life and lets face it, taking care of kids - there are stresses involved. But, we can decide which ones are tolerable. Don't accept disrespect from the parents and if it's not working with a child, despite all your best intentions, then maybe it is time for them to move on.

I wish you luck, keep us posted.