Some parents who don't want to be around their kids

[dodge__driver11]

LOLOL yeah I find that funny too, ________ was so trying. I don't understand how __________ does that for you is one I get often too

[Lou]

Don't any of you watch dr phil during naptimes? He says you can't change what you don't acknowledge, so maybe some of you don't realize the impact of your actions. It is usually negativity that wears a person down to the point where they can't keep up with life/parenting demands so need regular 'breaks'. Living a positive lifestyle helps positivity. Are you eating a good diet? Do you need a new mattress to have better sleeps? Little things like that can help a person have enough positivity to get through daily demands. Then that way they don't get worn out and have to lay in bed all day to recharge or have to go on regular holidays. Maybe it's a good idea to agree to disagree. I should not have to convince parents to spend more time with their OWN children, how sad is that? Especially with daycare providers who should know the benefits of quality time. I know some very dedicated parents who would agree with me. You could google the benefits of quality time with children. Then see why quality time is so important. You may also run into many articles about how many parents are too 'busy' for their children and how it is impacting their well-being.

You know what else Dr. Phil says a lot? "OH GET DOWN OFF YOUR HIGH HORSE"

You parent differently than every other person on this planet. No two parenting strategies are alike. But it certainly doesn't mean that YOUR way is the best one. If I choose to go away for the weekend, it is not because I am feeling mentally drained, not eating right, or need a better mattress (wtf, hahahaha). It's because I WANT to! It's OK to want to have fun that doesn't involve your children. I promise. I spend 24 hrs a day, 7 days a week of quality time with my children, and I love them to the end of the earth and back....why else would I quit my job and open a business to stay home with them? But spending time with friends, your husband, or your family isn't the end of the world, or your kids world. "I know some very dedicated parents who would agree with me." is saying that anyone who doesn't spend every waking moment with their children is not a dedicated parent and that's just bat shit crazy.
By the way, I noticed that you love to spew your gospel but never answer anyone's questions...so, please indulge me: How does a mother spending occasional time without their children negatively affect the child's overall well being? And how will spending every waking moment WITH your children help them to grow into better adults than those whose parents may have gone on a few dates with their husbands?
We all have different parenting styles, and that's ok. But it is not ok to make a statement about how our children are suffering because we do not use yours. There is no one way to be the perfect parent, but a million ways to be a great one.

[nschildcare]

If you don't take care of yourself, how can you take care of others?

All parents need a break. I regularly take a break from being "mom". My kids don't suffer for it, they benefit. I am a better mom when I get time to myself.

[momofnerds]

If you don't take care of yourself, how can you take care of others?

All parents need a break. I regularly take a break from being "mom". My kids don't suffer for it, they benefit. I am a better mom when I get time to myself.

your right, but I think what the op is saying is the ones that are always taking a break, like really why do you need to drop your child off for an entire week while you sit at home. And you know secretly, I think going to work outside your house where there are humans that don't carry toilet paper with them is a break for me lol! (sorry I had a little new walker unroll tp yesterday and I was in the middle of another bum change, it was so funny the look on his face) we all need breaks, but I find it odd that those who need the breaks spend the least amount of time with their children ??????

[mickyc]

Yes the original post was about parents who constantly bring their child to daycare because they need a break. Personally I think a parent has been at work all day - that is your "me" time away from your kids. Most get 2 coffee breaks and a full hour for lunch of "me" time. Small children need their parents in the evening and on weekends. Yes there is nothing wrong with the parents taking the odd day/evening/weekend away but there are some who send their children to daycare a lot more than necessary - which is what this post started to be about (not about us provider's needing a break - we deal with kids all day long and usually care for our own all day long so we should be taking more "me" time). This is just my opinion.

[dodge__driver11]

@ mickyc Wow you are right this has gotten way off base, and I have to be honest when my son was in lic. care and I paid for a ft spot..I would grocery shop, and go to the doc etc, when he was at daycare, and I was not booked to work..... But this was not a daily "day off thing."

It boggles my mind how some can say the care for kids, and yet in the same breath these very same people can come across as bullies and hypocrites. How can people with these traits be caring for our most precious, and building future adults...??

[Lou]

Yes, I agree that's what the original post was about. And I completely agree with that annoyance! What the OP is now doing though is grouping everyone who spends time away from their children into the same group as parents who don't want to parent their children. She is using blanket and passive aggressive statements that apply to anyone who doesn't spend 100% of their time with their children.

[momofnerds]

my odd went to daycare when I was on mat leave. She went 3 times a week for half a day. I wanted her to get ready for school and be around kids her own age and to learn to get away from me (cling on style) but I would never put her in all day everyday knowing I was home.

do you guys ever wonder down the road about those kids who spend all their time at daycare. I've been at this a long time so I now see the effects on some of the kids long term. Lots of poor relationships with their parents and lots of time spent on video games.

[nschildcare]

my odd went to daycare when I was on mat leave. She went 3 times a week for half a day. I wanted her to get ready for school and be around kids her own age and to learn to get away from me (cling on style) but I would never put her in all day everyday knowing I was home.

do you guys ever wonder down the road about those kids who spend all their time at daycare. I've been at this a long time so I now see the effects on some of the kids long term. Lots of poor relationships with their parents and lots of time spent on video games.

Um, yes! So glad I am able to be home with my children.

And I do agree the post got off topic... because continuous daycare dumpers do irk me. I have one now and had one in the past. Here all the time, long hours, every day, and with gparents on weekends. these kids are starved for attention, loving parental attention, and their behaviour reflects it. I don't want to see these two in 5 years.

[Lou]

I think it would depend on how the child was parented once getting home from daycare. My oldest (9) went to daycare full time but I dropped her off as late as I could and picked her up as early as I could while I went to University. If I was going to be held up at school or needed extra studying time then I would have my Mom or Dad pick her up so she wouldn't be there too long. My time with my daughter after daycare was ALL about her. She and I now have a very close, affectionate relationship...she WANTS to be heavy into computer games, lol, but that has a time limit But if a child was in daycare from 7:30-5:30 then rushed home and the parent was too exhausted/stressed to pay them any notice while they cleaned, cooked, rested, etc then I can see how those relationships would be distant