So a little background - I have a 6 month old and a 4 yr old of my own, and I have one 4 yr old boy come 3 days a week who's a friend of my son's, and I've been friends with his mom since they were babies. They have many squabbles, but nothing I can't handle. This boy has a few allergies and food intolerances, so his mom brings all his food, I can give him fruit and some veggies and milk, but that's it. He knows not to eat things without asking his mom first.
Today, they were both up in my son's room having quiet time, and I forgot there were some crackers up on my son's nightstand. My son comes down and said that he had a cracker. I asked if B had some too, and he said yes. I ask B about it, and he said that he's had those crackers before at home and he's not allergic to them. I didn't have the box anymore, but they were crackers with only a few ingredients and I knew there was nothing in them he was allergic too, maybe an intolerance though.
His mom picks him up today, and I told her that he ate a cracker, I forgot they were up there, and he said he'd had them before at home. She turned beet red and said no, he hasn't had them before. I know she's mad and she has every right to be. I thought it would be better to hear it from me than from him. I should have been more careful, I know this.
Then, the two of them start fighting over a toy, and my son bit hers. I immediately pick him up and tell him no, you don't bite, it hurts, and got him to apologize. She said that he had bite marks on his chest. I said sorry, and got L to apologize again. I feel like such an idiot I'm just starting out and was taking this boy coming over as sort of a test to see if I want to keep doing this. I don't feel like I'm cut out for it right now.
I'm just wondering, should I contact her tonight and ask how he's doing? Or let her cool down and ask her about it the next time he's over? I'm new to all this. I had a long serious talk with my son after they left and reminded him of the house rules and didn't let him play with the toy they were fighting over since he bit him.