Bad day

[5 Little Monkeys]

I know you feel badly but the biting at 4 stood out to me too. However, my aunts youngest is 9 and will still resort to biting her siblings from time to time(altho, in the past year or so she has gone to pinching) so I know it's not overly unusual for older children to do so. I would talk to your son and work on ways he can express his anger without biting. I would also have a consistent consequence for this....for example, every time he bites he gets his favourite toy taken away for 24 hours.

I have allowed older children to be in a different room from me as well so I can understand that. However, if they are known to disagree and fight from time to time, I would be checking in often. At the first sign of not listening, they would be made to play separately and in the same room as me.

I also would recommend staying away from caring for friends/family's children. I don't even really like to care for friends of a friend. The families in my daycare are absolute strangers to me outside of daycare. I know that sounds weird but this is my business not my personal life and I like to keep it that way

I would likely send a text apologizing again and asking how her son is doing. I would do this for any child that this happened too. Also, let her know that if she wants she can give you a call. This allows her to make the choice, she can either text or phone you if she wants.

And although he is only 4, I do think he is old enough to know that he is not allowed to eat things without asking first. Parents of children with food allergies (especially fatal ones) should be drilling this into their head from a young age. Once they are in school (which is only 6-12 months for this child?) the food is going to be everywhere and they need to take responsibility as well. I know not everyone will agree with me but that is my opinion. I am not saying that it's his fault for eating the cracker but don't beat yourself up over it! Mistakes happen. Learn from it and move on.