Help, need some feed back

[cheribaby1972]

Hi all,

I currently 2 toddlers and a 4 yr old in my care. I have been having issues with the 4 year old. It's been a while since I have had to deal with a child this age and need some feedback on how to deal with this.

I am having the following issues with the 4 yr old:

very rude all the time. Talks back

won't share with other kids. rips toys out of their hands. hides toys under leg so they can't have it

has tried twice to hide a toy in pocket to take it home. both times was caught before it could leave the house. I've explained what stealing is and such. talked about consequences. The response I get is "well I don't have this at home and I want it"

teases other kids with songs like " you can't have ____ na na na" Very mean to the little ones. Tells me they aren't her friends.

makes demands....its raining so we can't go outside but demands that we do because she wants to. will follow me around telling me they want to go outside. won't listen when we are at the park. will try to argue everything. when we have to leave it's hell

when put on time out for anything I get that teenage sign of annoyance, eye rolling and "again!"Tells me when time out is over expecting that because they feel it is time that I need to obey

She is always into everyone else's business. Always trying to look over my daughters shoulder when she is on her phone. I have explained to her about privacy over and over but she doesn't care. She just says but I want to see.

I have consulted with a teacher friend and she says it sounds like she has no boundaries at home. It makes for very stressful days for me. Its more work than looking after 2 toddlers.

The child told me the other day that once school starts they won't be coming anymore. Always tells me they want to go home. I was expecting to have the child after school when they start school but I am finding that the toddlers are sleeping when the bus comes. I am going to have to let them go I think.

I am not sure how to approach this

Any thoughts?