2-3 sick days in 2 months is a lot IMO, however it could have just been bad timing. Maybe she won't have another one all year? I try not to close if I'm sick unless it's highly contagious but I also have my fiancé home until he goes in for his evening shift so he can help out if need be. I try to follow my own sick policy because I don't think it's fair to expect parents too yet I stay open and expose their child to my illness.

I take children on errands with me when I have 2 or less. I always ask if this is okay and I've never had a parent have an issue with it. They know I add in something fun (like a park or mcd's play structure) and take them out for lunch so the kids always have fun anyways.

I do think taking a child out of town for a personal appt is not something I would do but I also don't think it would make me pull my child. I would definitely talk to her about it and let her know your concerns though. If she continued to do things knowing I was against them, then I would look for another provider at that time.

Sounds like you two had different ideas of what home daycare should be so I would suggest asking more questions when looking for another provider and making sure your both on same page