I was a little frustrated with this one DCG and her family today and have been for a while. Today she starts freaking out when mom says "hi" over the fence then goes inside to get her kids' stuff (without getting her first) and runs away to the back of the backyard. I leave her and when mom comes, I tell her "I'll get her" because with them everything is a choice and it drives me crazy! Example "Suzy, can you please ride in the front of the stroller so your sister can sit here?" "Can you please walk?" It is always a pleading/begging tone too. And when she doesn't want to, she doesn't have to. I have seen her father carry her on his shoulders all the while pushing a double stroller because she doesn't want to walk/ride in the stroller. So I go to get her and she hides under the slide. So I go to grab her hand and tell her to come out, she doesn't so I take her out and carry her to her parents (she's 3.5 yrs old). I think they were a bit surprised as they have never bee remotely this direct with her. I think I am just sick of their crap but I wonder if I overstepped now?

They do other things like let their kids bring toys to daycare when they know it is not allowed and I have spoken to them about it and so they make a big deal about it at drop off "remember what we spoke about, it has to go in your back pack" so they freak out and I get to deal with it. They send them with all kinds of stuff as they "want to pick their battles" which is fine but their not dealing with it or saying "no" usually impacts me!

I am not passive in the least and speak up...they just drive me crazy some days