I think she needs a nanny....and I feel sorry for said nanny who will always be under the microscope.

Personally....I doubt I would have taken them on in the first place. Honestly, I find this job mentally exhausting so the slightest sniff of something being off and I don't offer a spot.

I am aware that everyone runs their business differently and may not have the luxury of being extremely anal about clients.

That being said, I think you did the right thing for both parties in saying firmly that you are using these first weeks as a trial period. I suspect you have a gut feeling already so you have laid the groundwork for terminating care.

I had an interview with an extremely anxious Mommy. She called references several times, asked millions of questions post interview etc. She admitted to me that she was terrified of leaving her child in daycare and asked if I could help her work through it. She trusted me and did everything I suggested, even though she desperately wanted to stay here with him. I agreed to give it a try because I really liked her honesty. They have been an amazing family for a year and 1/2!!

Make sure she knows how things need to be done. If she's not willing/able to do what you need then send her on her way.