My husband (technically fiance but we've been common law for 3 years so will just refer to him as husband from now on haha) was like this 2 years ago. He had an okay job...good pay, benefits, hours were m-f with every other wknd but it was retail which he hated and the dynamics at work with coworkers and bosses wasn't the best. It constantly had people quitting etc etc. Anyways, he would come home grouchy, complaining, saying he wanted a diff job but like your husband, never did anything about it.

I eventually had enough. I told him that he could either find a different job or find a different audience to complain too because I wasn't going to listen to it anymore. Everyone complains (and that is normal and healthy to an extent) but when it is the same complaint over and over and over and YOU do nothing to change it, than you are just as much part of the problem as the problem itself.

He got the hint, took the plunge and changed careers. He has since found a fantastic job with great benefits, very little stress and he actually enjoys going to work again. Part of his problem was fear...he is scared of change and basically needed to be told "shut up or put up". He thanks me often for making him take the plunge and change careers. Right now the job is evenings (which he loves) but I would eventually like him to get back to day shifts. He has lots of room for advancement in this career and is always looking for that opportunity so one day it will happen.

Now this is only my opinion but my advice to you would be to tell your husband the same thing I told mine. If he wants to stay where he is, fine, but you don't want to hear about it anymore. If he's not willing to make a change than he can deal with it. I also wouldn't be applying for jobs for him. He is a big boy and can do that himself.It is also part of being an adult IMO. For sure help him look and let him know of jobs you see but he needs to be doing the bulk of the work himself. If he really wants too he will find the time and energy to do so. He will also feel so much better about himself if he does this and have confidence in himself that he can take his own path in his hands and be the master of his future. It's horrible to say but sometimes men are like children...they need some poking and prodding but they are fully capable of doing things on their own and need to be given that opportunity so they can shine.

I hope things work out for you guys! I know how hard it is when one or both of you resent your jobs and want more out of life. Nobody is going to change that but yourselves though! Good Luck!!