I totally hear you on this one! what I try to do (my very best when possible! lol) is tell them what to do vs what not to do. ex remember to use a kleenex...when we are inside we walk etc. I know it doesn't seem like much but for me it really helps.
And like the others said... during these trying time I try to let the little things go as much as I can. we can only do so much after all ! lol
I hope next week is easier on you ,
Have a great weekend