Grumbling complaint.

[Lou]

My feelings are hurt. And it's so menial and dumb, and I know this so I don't need any advice or "I told you so's" because I simply need to get this off my chest with ladies who understand.
Last year our friends underwent some financial strife and pulled their daughter from her centre care and put her in my care. I gave them a discount (so 2 strikes against me already, eh? Friends and discount, lol)
While when we hang out it is amazing and we have so much fun, our daycare relationship has been difficult for me when I 100% thought it was going to be great.
They have been my most difficult family to date:
- Picking up late (paying my late fee no problem, but late nonetheless and with a 5 min before closing warning, ugh)
- Paying late
- Not arriving ready for the day (no bag, long sleeves on 35 degree days, not sunscreened)
- Not responding to communications despite repeated requests to respond to emails so that I have a receipt that they have read and understood the info provided
- Questioning days I need off
- A general air of disappointment
All things that I would have issued warning letters followed by termination for.

So, we have dealt with these things along the way, but it has been awkward for me.
Anyways, last night I get an email that they wish to move dck's last day to the end of July instead of towards the end of August "to save some money". I understand that their family's financial issues are what comes first for them. I'm just in a general state of feeling sorry for myself because I feel I put up with a lot, gave them an incredible discount, and now they're withdrawing dck from care even earlier after we had explicit conversations about when dck's last day would be so I could create a start date for upcoming newbies so I don't lose money in between.

And the kicker? I was speaking to another dcb's mom this morning about when his last day is going to be, and I mentioned dck's new last day and the mom responded: "Oh yeah, she told me last week, I was surprised!" So, thanks a lot FRIEND that I'm the last to know.

Just kind of hurts, has put me in a funk, and needed to get it all out!

Thanks if you managed through my whining! LOL

[5 Little Monkeys]

Oh I feel for you!!! I can't stand when people take advantage of others but when it's your own friend or family member it's 100x worse!!

I would be glad they are done and honestly, I would be phasing them out my life as well. Friendships take work just like any other relationship and if I'm putting in more than I'm getting....I feel used and I don't like that!

[Secondtimearound]

Aw !! Sorry to hear that !! It's hard when people who should treat us better don't ! Especially since you went out of your way to help !!
Sometimes I get great relief by imagining karma ! Lol then I stop , worried for my own karma lol !!
I get it !! I've done the same !! Like 5lm said , feeling used isn't a good feeling !!
Feel better !!!!

[Lou]

Honestly, I am glad that our DC relationship will be done. I already feel so much better just getting it all out.
And actually, I have been phasing a lot of people out lately. I find that most of my friendships are incredibly one sided with only myself doing the work for get togethers, phone calls, etc. I'm just going to stop and see what happens...my heart is tired from carrying friendships all by myself.

[Wonderwiper]

Hugs!!

One-sided friendships are hard and incredibly disappointing once we realize that's the case. I'm sorry you are hurt but glad your DC relationship has come to an end so you don't have that stress.

[mattsmom]

Yep, I dealt with this a few years ago with my friend/neighbour while looking after her 2 kids. They were the worst!! Coming late to pick up because she had to do grocery shopping first, complaining that I sent dcb home when he was sick saying to me that "that's part of daycare, too bad for you", and other things.

I knew that if I didn't terminate soon, we would lose the friendship for good. I decided to bite the bullet and terminate to save the friendship. She was pissed at first, but now we are as close as ever and I'm so glad I didn't let it go any further.

Now, I have a strict policy of no friend's or family's kids in the daycare. If they ask, I just tell them "sorry but I'm full at the moment".