Advice on Terminating my neighbors children...

[mimi]

I think it is best that you do an immediate termination. In my 8 yrs of daycare I have only termed one child so I do not take termination lightly. This child's constant physical and emotional misbehaviour needs to be addressed by her parents whom IMO have no parenting style and seem to have passed on that role to you. Collecting urine samples is not our job and I would be embarrassed to ask anyone to do that for me, as a parent!
As for them being neighbors, who cares? These people seems the sort you smile and wave to and continue on and that is what I would do after the term. Good luck

[5 Little Monkeys]

I don't mean for this to get off topic but in regard to the urine sample....I once had a child who needed a BM sample and mom told me that I could call her at work when he had his BM and she would come deal with it. (he was in a diaper still) I told her not to worry, I was fine doing it for her.

I thought it was nice of her to offer to come deal with it but I didn't think it was out of my duties as a dcprovider. I never even thought of not doing it actually lol. This is why I love this site...I love reading how others deal with situations. I might have felt differently if she just expected me to do it though and didn't ask if I was okay with it!!

Not being able to reach mom is a big no no IMO. Of course there are times they are away from their desk or whatever their job may be but if she didn't reply to my msg I would be ticked. I hope you have a back up person you called to come get the child? Maybe that would show mom you mean business!

[thenest]

The issue with the sample was mom WAS home next door and just expected me to do it! I would never expect my provider to do that with my own children, so I was caught off guard when it was an expectation.

They were picked up and the parents were very apologetic. However, dads response was "we're going to nip this in the butt tonight!"
Are they serious!?!? I advised them to look to their pediatrition for tips on behavioural strategies, as I firmly feel she may have aspbergers or mild autism, but that's not my place to say. They did however reveal that she displayed the same behaviour in her previous daycare.

My letter will be ready Friday. They would be miracle workers if they could change behaviour in one evening!

[thenest]

Ps I couldn't call a backup, as they have no support system.

[thenest]

So you called mom and she cannot be reached! That is not OK, what if there was an emergency and you needed to get in touch with her.

I honestly would not even give mom notice. I would say that she has until the end of the week and that is it. enough is enough. This child would sit in timeout all day if it was me!

I cringe when I have to discipline her, as it's always accompanied by her high pitched squeals (shreeky from Care Bears) that can last for hours! Hence the call home today with the excessive four hours of screaming she did because she thought it was funny.

[Secondtimearound]

Great advice given !!! You think she might be hesitant to act with disrespect BECAUSE she's YOUR neighbour as well , the fact she isn't shows her personality ! I would have no issue terminating !
As mentioned she will have to deal with her daughter eventually , the school system would recognize it for sure ! Sad she wouldn't deal with some issues now !!!

[thenest]

Thank you all for the great advice!

[Lou]

Keep us posted!