Advice on Terminating my neighbors children...

[CrazyEight]

I had to terminate my neighbour's 4yrold boy for severe behaviour issues. It was very awkward in the beginning, but it got better over time - especially once he was diagnosed with a sensory disorder, and I think they kind of woke up and realized that it wasn't just me, that there was an actual, real issue that made home care an unsafe option for him. If/once you do it, give them space to get over it, but be friendly and polite when you see them - hopefully they'll eventually realize that you were in the right, and respect you for doing the awkward but necessary thing.

[thenest]

Thanks everyone! I spoke to mom last night about the hitting and she looked at her daughter and said: "we don't hit". She then turned around and hit her mom. All mom did was smirk.

I was going to wait until Friday to give her notice, but today her daughter high pitched screamed from 9 am until 12:30 pm. She also continued to run in the kitchen where she knocked over my 15-month-old and he put his tooth right through his tongue. She displayed no empathy, as he was bleeding everywhere and continued running and laughing. I put her on a time-out and she started high pitched screaming and laughing again. After 15 more minutes of the screaming I called their mother and there was no answer. Mind you every child in my care this morning is upset with her yelling. Terrible day!

[thenest]

The issue with the sample was mom WAS home next door and just expected me to do it! I would never expect my provider to do that with my own children, so I was caught off guard when it was an expectation.

They were picked up and the parents were very apologetic. However, dads response was "we're going to nip this in the butt tonight!"
Are they serious!?!? I advised them to look to their pediatrition for tips on behavioural strategies, as I firmly feel she may have aspbergers or mild autism, but that's not my place to say. They did however reveal that she displayed the same behaviour in her previous daycare.

My letter will be ready Friday. They would be miracle workers if they could change behaviour in one evening!