I agree, high maintenance. As has been said on this forum countless times, if you want that type of individualized care, you should hire a nanny or quit your job and stay home. I do think that some type of compromise could be made though...maybe put the kids down at 1 or 1:15 instead of 12:30? This might stretch out R's afternoon nap thereby making it better for his late afternoon? However, I would not allow other children in my care to suffer for the sake of one...