My daughter is having a hard time

[mickyc]

Yes it is partly because of the daycare but it is likely more so because she is 2 (terrible 2's!). You need to be consistent and strict with her. My daughter was like this as well. I started daycare when she was 8 months old (only part-time for the first 3 months). We had some behavioural issues that is for sure but I was very strict with her. I don't allow my daycare kids to act that way (throwing tantrums, hitting, yelling, screaming) so I certainly wouldn't allow her to behave that way. She is now 4.5 and an absolutely wonderful child! I get so many compliments when we go out how she is so well behaved.

Our children will always be the worst behaved with us, just as we see the daycare children act ridiculous at drop off/pick up time. For myself I have my daycare separate from my living space so that helps. She doesn't have to share her toys or her space (except for right now my basement is under construction so daycare is upstairs although all my daughter's toys are in her room and all bedroom doors remain closed all day). We make sure and do lots of special things together evenings and weekends.

I also put her in pre-school one morning a week to get her used to other kids and away from me. She also goes to grandma's house one day a week just to have a break. There were times where if she wanted to just stay upstairs and play or watch TV instead of "come to work" downstairs I would let her. I could always hear or and would check on her often. It isn't her choice to that I run daycare so if she needs her space sometimes I let her have it.