Rachael thank you very much for your response. Im am very happy that you did find happiness here and all is well with you. You make a great point about just adapting to what life throws at you. I whole heartedly thank you and you really did make my decision and mind at ease. Do it for me and not worry about what others might think. I hope you have many more years of happiness with your new family that has doubled. It is a great thing your doing for those boy's. As an adopted person myself I take my hat off to you. Even though they are family your nephews and you feel obligated to do so, You really didn't have to. It may be tough but man oh man they will thank you when they are older.