I have only had my daycare open since May. I currently have 4 children, plus my own 15 month old daughter.

I recently have taken on an almost 3 year old girl, about 4-5 weeks ago. The first week, was fine. Now it is an absolute nightmare. Every single thing, takes me at least 4-5 times of asking. She takes other children's toys away from them, she takes their drinks and hides under tables to drink them (they are usually kept out of reach, but when they drink them, she finds a way to grab them), she runs into places that are out of bounds, she purposely wakes children up when they are sleeping, she NEVER sleeps, she isn't toilet trained and won't even make an effort here. Most days she leaks through her diaper and pees on my chairs, her bed, blankets, etc. Her parents never bring her enough spare clothes, even though I have asked repeatedly. She won't sit at the table....half way through every meal, she is laying on the floor with food in her mouth. She goes through the other children's bags and takes their things. It's constant. She's like a little disobedient tornado that disrupts everything. I have praised her good behaviour (which is difficult to even find any in a day), I have tried time outs, I have tried rewards for good behaviour. Nothing works.

I speak to her mom every day about her behaviour. Yesterday, she repeatedly threw sand at the other children while playing in the sandbox. I asked 3 times and then removed her from the sandbox for her behaviour. As she was leaving she said "I'm going to hurt you". I reported this to mom, who laughed!!

Ugh. Anyway...it's a constant struggle. I really feel like a failure if I terminate care, but I don't know what else to do at this point. My daycare used to be so peaceful and fun, but now I am constantly nagging, and losing my patience.

When I talk to mom about her behaviour, I feel like they are all small things, and I feel like she thinks I'm overreacting.

I guess I mostly just needed to vent, but also wondering your thoughts? Is it too soon to terminate care? Do these seem like trivial reasons to terminate? I mean, she isn't aggressive, or angry. She doesn't hurt the other children. But she is very disruptive and disobedient, constantly. I haven't seen any improvement, and I have been very consistent.