Thank you for your thoughts. I realize now that I am being to easy on her. I guess it's because I feel like I'm already so hard on her by constantly being on her case about things. But today I am going to start with by telling her in advance that I will ask 1 time today. If she doesn't respond after 1 time of asking, it will be a time out.

Yesterday, her mom came to pick up and asked how her day was. I told her that it was a better day, but that she was testing a lot, and not following a lot of the rules. Her mom's response was "Oh, you know what? It's the age." She totally brushed it off. I really felt like saying how I have worked in many preschool rooms and have rarely encountered such rude, disrespectful behaviour from the children. It's not "the age". Ugh.

As for the toilet training, during the interview, the mom asked me how I felt about toilet training. I said I was happy to continue what the parents were doing at home. She made it out like they had started toilet training. She said that she felt bad that she had "dropped the ball", on her since she's 3 and not toilet trained. I asked her if she was going at home, and she said she will pee on the toilet at home, but she's never pooped on the toilet. Here I can't get her to do either. I am considering a reward system, but I honestly don't think that would work with her.

Her diapers are definitely too small. She is in size 4, which is the same size that my very tiny 15 month old wears. The mom said that she will eventually send her in pull ups, but that at the moment she has a ton of these diapers that she needs to use up first.

I also do need to take a look at restructuring some things in my daycare. We are in the basement, which is basically one big room. I have baby gates up at the kichen and playroom entrances, but the cubbies are just hooks on the wall, with baskets, so they have open access to that. Most times, they don't pay much attention, but since this little girl started getting into them - now they all want to.

I will try a few more things before I terminate. I will definitely cut down on the warnings and see if that helps. From now on, she gets asked one time.

Thanks for the help. I will give her a bit longer...she's paid for another week, so after next week, I will reassess the situation. Hopefully I can see some improvements soon, as I want to pull my hair out!!