To claim or not to claim

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Sorry about your husband. That really is a tough hand. However, I maintain, there really isn't a need to be a complete witch toward someone. We can all recognize unwarranted nastiness when we see it. It just wasn't that big of a deal, but you spent a significant amount of time tearing strips off this woman and saying things that, I suspect, in a public situation without anonymity, you probably wouldn't have been so hostile...at least that's my hope. I don't get the impression that you're a complete witch, but rather found a place to let loose without any real repercussions. This site is rife with people attacking each other, complaining and seeking attention. There's really no need to add to that atmosphere. It's counterproductive, immature and, frankly, completely unnecessary.

I also realize that the comment about your husband was designed to make me feel terrible for my flippant remark about exhusbands. I truly am sorry for what can only be a very hard situation for you. I'm sure it was terrible. I could not possibly know that and, since my statement actually had no judgmental connotations whatsoever, I can't help but think bringing this info to light was for a specific reaction from me. I stated the obvious. If you want attention, just seek it in a kinder, gentler way. Most of the people in here are pretty decent folk if you treat them with respect. I'm done with this thread now, so have at it and let loose on me if you wish....not all that bothered. But a word of advice...get over it. It just doesn't matter and isn't worth alienating yourself from your peers.