Is mom asking too much?

[thenest]

According to mom she doesn't display this behaviour anywhere else. She used to hit her parents in the face, but I guess she doesn't now. Her mother said she is always at play groups and play dates and never does this. She has also claimed she is so intelligent for her age she cannot get her needs across and gets frustrated.

[Spixie33]

You are not her employee. She is treating you as though she is your boss.

You provide a service - but you are self employed. You choose what you do and where you draw the line.

Snacks and toys in the stroller sound like a nightmare alone -crumbs in the seats, attracting bees and toys dropping every few min that you have to stop and pick up.

Nap time pajamas - WTH? It's only 1.5 hours. That's a lot of extra work for you

Nevermind that the behaviour is not good.

I think you need to take hold of the reins of your business and let mom know that you are in charge and kids and families have to follow your guidelines and rules

[Spixie33]

According to mom she doesn't display this behaviour anywhere else. She used to hit her parents in the face, but I guess she doesn't now. Her mother said she is always at play groups and play dates and never does this. She has also claimed she is so intelligent for her age she cannot get her needs across and gets frustrated.

That sounds like mommy denial

Of course daycare is different than being one on one with a parent. Suddenly a child has to do what the whole group does and go with the flow rather than get catered to her individual wishes.

[Other Mummy]

No doubt, as others have posted, it is time to terminate. If you are worried that she might bad mouth you to others, I would word the termination letter to the effect of

"....Dear DCM, it is with deep regret that I must terminate our contract. Special Snowflake is obviously gifted and at this point, I must recommend she be put in another more advanced preschool program. I cannot meet her needs. Regretfully,..."

Then smile and deliver.

[thenest]

No doubt, as others have posted, it is time to terminate. If you are worried that she might bad mouth you to others, I would word the termination letter to the effect of

"....Dear DCM, it is with deep regret that I must terminate our contract. Special Snowflake is obviously gifted and at this point, I must recommend she be put in another more advanced preschool program. I cannot meet her needs. Regretfully,..."

Then smile and deliver.

Seriously? She would kill me lol

[mickyc]

Yes I think she is totally serious. She is going to be upset that special snowflake is being terminated so it likely won't go well but you need to do something!

[5 Little Monkeys]

I'm the odd one out on the PJ's LOL...I even change some of them if I feel they are in uncomfortable clothes for nap. The parents don't ask me too, I just do it out of my own preference. I don't want to nap in jeans so I don't make them lol. Anyways that's besides the point.
It's your daycare so your rules. (just a pet peeve of mine....I am not a babysitter so I don't expect parents to treat me like one)

The aggression itself would be enough for me to terminate but mom's attitude wouldn't help. I would write up a note explaining why you are terminating. I have physical aggression as an immediate termination in my contract but if you don't, I would give her the notice that was agreed upon. She won't be happy but so what...YOU WILL!! and that's all that matters in this situation. You have to look out for yourself and your son and the other children in your care. Be strong!!

[CrazyEight]

You make a good point, 5LM, I will let a dck sleep in their diaper and shirt if the pants are too tight or uncomfortable for naptime (super-skinny jeans on an 18-month-old? really? for example) or strip them down to just the diaper (if it's warm enough) if they're in a scratchy dress or something. I've been known to toss them in some of my kids' old clothes for nap/throughout the day if what they're wearing isn't appropriate...and that happens way more than I'd like!

I think that mom demanding the kid sleep in pj's though is a bit strange, and when coupled with all the other requests it would move from strange to ridiculous.

[daycaremom9]

I began sitting for a family four months ago and everything was great. This family gives me their childcare dates ever Sunday for the week of as her dates always change. I have always accommodated them. I even accommodate all of her requests: provide her child with her supplied teething rings, change her into her pjs at nap time, provide her with crackers or toys while walking in the stroller etc.

This baby (17 months) is very strong and has been aggressive since the day she started. She bites, pulls hair, hits and kicks every child. Mainly she picks on my son who is 17 months as well. I inform mom every time she picks her up if it was a major incident. Everytime it's my fault. She bit someone because I didn't have her tethers available, she hair pulled and kicked in the stroller because I didn't provide her with toys or food and she was probably starving (I feed her breakfast 45 minutes before we leave to drop off at school). Every day I provide the parents with written reports, I daily blog with their activities and pictures and we do crafts, play outside and they're provided with a preschool program.

The other day mom asked me to start a journal with the time, what her child was doing before, during and after the incident. She has blamed the other children for her actions that they may be provoking her when they are no where near her and she also tried to blame my school age son the other day. I charge ten dollars less than anyone in the area and I feel like I give so much to this family, but it's never enough.

I feel like I want to terminate because mom is always adding new things to my list and is never happy. Am I over reacting or is she really asking a lot?

Wonder why her child is showing this behaviour?! I would say "Next!"

[daycaremom9]

I wouldn't believe that! If it's happening at daycare it's happening elsewhere!