A few comments/thoughts, in no particular order.

1. If you are going to ask her, do so directly. When people skirt around an issue they aren't comfortable raising, some actually fail to make their point and therefore it's lost. There will be no change if the provider doesn't receive the message clearly.

2. Be aware it's a request. Clients are not our bosses and therefore it's their responsibility to ensure that any service based provider is going to provide the environment the client is seeking.

3. I have no screen time ever in my day care BUT if a parent asked me to allow their child to watch TV, the answer would be no. Just as I have my way of doing things, your provider will also have her way. What if her other clients actually want their child to have the TV on? What are you expecting your carer to do then?

4. When you went out for interview and inquired about a typical day, was the TV/screen time mentioned?

5. What do you think is the reason for the TV being on esp if they are in another room? Is it that she moves from one room to the other? Could it be habitual background noise? Is there someone else in the home during business hours who watches it.

Bottom line, you can ask for her to stop but she doesn't have to comply sadly. It might be time to look around for another carer who better suits your needs.