HELP! Throwing Up

[bright sparks]

Well there are a few things working against you. First of all the fact that the child is only with you once a week provides zero consistency and very few children actually transition well if completely when only coming once a week. On top of that this child is an AP child which means even more inconsistency between the relationship with the parent compared to group care. Put these together and it really isn't suprising that this child is vomiting on demand for attention when they have been raised with a variation of AP theory. Honestly, I think this parent needs to send for at least three days a week and start adopting a "detachment parenting" routine at home in the best interest of the child being able to settle at your place, or...you need to terminate. I think it's highly unlikely that this child will change. Not impossible but at what price to you, the other children and the child in question. 1 day a week doesn't provide enough of a chance to change habits. One day a week inconsistency at daycare plus attachment parenting issues to begin with when it comes to going into a group care setting would have personally had me saying no from the start. I know for some of us, if not a lot of us filling spots has been tough, but for 1 day a week are you able to terminate if the parents aren't willing and/or able to send more frequently to give their child a fighting chance of adjusting?

[ttremble88]

I most certainly can afford to terminate. She is filling the one space that I have with one of my 4 day per week children. And the only reason I am trying to hold on longer then usual, is because the mother is friends with another one of my full timers. The 1 day child came as a referral.

Thanks ladies. I think that I needed to hear it for someone else. I was just talking it over with my hubby and said the exact same thing:

a) she needs to attend at least 3 days per week
b) she needs to attend daddy and me classes where she can get used to having the shared attention, and not throwing up.
c) the parents need to STOP. The child will not sleep because she is used to sleeping on daddys chest
d) Throwing up= home