HELP! Throwing Up

[Rachael]

I am not a fan of AP on any level. I understand that every parent gets to choose but in my experience, it creates far more problems later down the line. AP children tend to be overly anxious, they don't adjust well to being told no, they struggle to perform simple instructions independently, the list goes on.

Of course the parents don't have to handle any of this - they trot off back to work at the end of mat leave, making it the carer's issue and the child's issue or they remain as stay-at-home parents and the teachers have to deal with it all once the child begins school.

In the meantime, when the parent is with the child at the end of they day, the AP continues, further confusing a child who has to switch between the real world and their home life.

I'd love for any new parent considering AP, to come into a day care and see for themselves how much harder their own child will struggle vs a child who is encouraged to be independent, self-sooth, etc.

Since it's only one day a week and it's for social interaction, I too think that the parent taking the child to social activities within the community would be a better option than day care once a week.

[Lee-Bee]

[QUOTE=Rachael;68958]I am not a fan of AP on any level. I understand that every parent gets to choose but in my experience, it creates far more problems later down the line. AP children tend to be overly anxious, they don't adjust well to being told no, they struggle to perform simple instructions independently, the list goes on.

Research (and lots of it) says the opposite. AP children grow up to be confident, independent fully capable children. The problem is a crap load of parents out there confused AP parenting as meaning you never let your child's feet touch the ground and that you never let them so much as whimper (let alone cry)...which leads to a bunch of children that rule the house, are in capable of self soothing and just don't function in group settings.

AP parenting is about recognizing and responding to your child's emotions. It doesn't mean you have to give in to those emotions. It doesn't mean you can't still be the boss! Drives me up the wall when parents call themselves AP when they are just permissive parents that choose to let their child run the families lives.

[MonkeyPrincess]

I am not a fan of AP on any level. I understand that every parent gets to choose but in my experience, it creates far more problems later down the line. AP children tend to be overly anxious, they don't adjust well to being told no, they struggle to perform simple instructions independently, the list goes on.

Of course the parents don't have to handle any of this - they trot off back to work at the end of mat leave, making it the carer's issue and the child's issue or they remain as stay-at-home parents and the teachers have to deal with it all once the child begins school.

In the meantime, when the parent is with the child at the end of they day, the AP continues, further confusing a child who has to switch between the real world and their home life.

I'd love for any new parent considering AP, to come into a day care and see for themselves how much harder their own child will struggle vs a child who is encouraged to be independent, self-sooth, etc.

Since it's only one day a week and it's for social interaction, I too think that the parent taking the child to social activities within the community would be a better option than day care once a week.

Oh my God, i agree with this entire post wholeheartedly. Thank you