I think it has relevance because then the decision to make comes from if the poster thinks it is important enough to push the issue with her dd . If jk was mandatory then I would not have a problem saying make her go . Because it is not opens the choices. We've all had issues and made demands on our child that others wouldn't for example pacifiers , some would take them away cold turkey at an age they feel is right and some wait until the child is old enough to walk to the tree , grab branches and load the pacifiers for the fairies to take for little babies . This is the same to me , I was advising since it is not mandatory and not utilized by a lot of parents that she has the choice here .
I am in no way arguing the child has any say t but just advising to pick the battles .

































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